I grew up in Maine, in the northeast corner of New England. As a whole, Mainers pride themselves on being practical people; intellectual dialogue, democratic compassion and love of nature abounds. The concept of ‘religion’ is looked at with some skepticism, though the majority would consider themselves spiritual in some way.
The people are smart and empathetic, and won’t hesitate to offer advise in times of emotional crisis. I came to depend on that insight as as I rode life’s roller coaster of changes. Getting advise from my important people would tip the “decision scale”, and point me off in the right direction.
But somewhere around when I turned 20, the women in my life all decided together (apparently) that I was officially an adult and I had to make my own decisions. The advise changed from, “you should…” or “try this…” to the frustrating new alternative: “Listen to your gut… Your instinct is there for a reason.”
Deep down, I knew this was good thing– they were my decisions to make and I had to make them myself. However, for someone that loved having a girlfriend spell out just what she thought I should do, this did not feel like a positive change. I felt like yelling at them– you’re saying you’re really not going to help me?! Whatever my gut is saying, it’s speaking a different language!!!!
I tried to my very hardest to learn how to listen to my instinct. It took two countries, way too many states and lots of time alone, but I started to hear myself. In case anyone reading doesn’t know how to listen to your gut, here’s a few examples that I’ve learned over the last few years:
- When you ask yourself a question, and your mind immediately comes back with the answer in an inner dialogue. Follow that.
- When you can’t leave the date without breaking up with someone because, good explanation or not… you just can’t leave until it’s done. Follow that.
- When you’ve written the pros and cons list, and you know where the evidence lies… but you can’t picture your life any other than one particular way. Follow that.
When I was 22, I followed my gut out to Wyoming. And then a few years later to Montana. The dominant lifestyle here could not be more different from what I’m used to; Christian, conservative and republican. Wonderful people, by the way. But sometimes when I ask for advise from girlfriends here, I’m still a bit surprised by their answer: “Pray about it… Follow what God is telling you”.
At first, I struggled with this response, because it was so different than what I was used to. To start, I hadn’t actually sat down and prayed about anything in my life. Like ever. I didn’t know how to go about it or if it would even work.
And even worse, I didn’t know what advise I was waiting for and how to listen. I felt like the only thing I would understand would be if God burst through my door said, “HEY! I know what you should do!” Well, hallelujah, at least You do.
It took me a few years, and a lot of thinking. And a lot of praying. And a lot of hesitating and then leaping. But here’s what I’ve come down to: those two statements, to pray about and follow your gut, are the same thing.
Let me explain. I was raised as a Quaker, which is a very liberal sect of christianity. Quakers believe that God lives inside every person, and inter connects everyone to each other. It’s God that acts as your conscious, helps you make hard decisions, and guides you in creating a life that feels like your own.
So as a Quaker, when you pray, you’re not praying to a God far away up in the sky. In reality, you’re praying to the God that lives in side of you, or, in essence… you’re praying to yourself. These two different pieces of advise, to follow your gut or to pray about, become very similar when you think about praying to God as an inner spirit that talks in your own voice.
When put into that light, the advise “listen to your gut”, sounds a lot more like, “talk to God, and wait to hear an answer. It may very well come in the sound of your own voice”. Or an easier translation: listen to your gut = listen to God.
In the same way, “follow your intuition”, sounds more like “God is pushing you in a particular direction. The tug that you have inside might be you, but it also might be God speaking through you in the only way you can understand. So follow that”.
My point is this: whether you strive to follow your gut or follow God, you are, in essence doing the same thing. You’re striving to live a life that’s your own, to create something that feels like it fits you. Understand that the way people talk can use different words, but be saying the exact same thing.
And either way you put it, it’s still the best advice I ever got.
Thuy-Hong Nguyen says
Wow, thank you for these wise words. You are wise beyond your age. Like you, I am learning to listen to my guts or instinct. I also learn that God is love and God resides in each of us. I don’t associate to any religion but believe there is a divine or higher self in each of us. Also, I see myself as a citizen of the world.
Your article answered my questions about the relationship between intuition and God. Thank you.
Your answer about the Guy And God relation confirmed my thought
Adonus Neverland says
I recently started to hear my own intuition or Gut or God. Following your gut is not enough sometimes in the moment you feel you should move on or your not sure. The Key is having someone you can trust; a father… God who loves you. Just as children trust their parents and don’t have a worry in the world so we should as adults. Put it all in his hands and know wherever you go he is right there with you and he is showing you everyday the way the truth and the life. and like allstate says… Your in good hands.
Miss SJP says
I really needed those inspirational words thank you!
Bob Lee says
I pastor a church in Dupo, Illinois. In 1963 I studied English Bible in Springfield, MO. After serving a church for a few years I ministered as an Army Chaplain for a long time. For years I looked to a God who lived in the heavens. In recent days I’ve come to believe that God lives inside us. Are you familiar with the late Dr. Wayne Dyer? He was an inspiration to me. I look forward to reading things you write about. I’m glad I found you.
Hi Bob, I haven’t heard of Dr. Wayne Dyer, but I’ll have to look into him now, thanks for sharing that. I was raised in a Quaker Meeting (not as old fashioned as it sounds) and quakers strongly believe that god lives inside and between all of us, like an interconnected web of love — what they call “Light”. Thanks again for sharing, I’ll have to start reading!
YES! I am just recently beginning to see the connection between us all – God Within. I’ve always loved the ‘idea’ of ‘we are all one’, but just couldn’t wrap my head around it. Hannah, I was Googling prayer and intuition and found your page. I’ve subscribed so I look forward to reading more.
PS Wayne Dyer is incredible. He has passed on now, but his books will live forever and keep changing lives like they did mine.
Also, I wasn’t aware of what the Quakers believed, other than they make beautiful quilts, but I couldn’t agree more!
Lovely piece of writing.
This is so relevant & wonderful. & just what I needed to read. I was just feeling overwhelmed today because I have been continuously praying over an issue and “haven’t received an answer— just a gut feeling”…. thank you for opening my mind to the idea that my answer might have already developed inside of me. Xo
Amelia, I’m so glad that helped. Trust yourself.
I sometimes get this uneasy feeling telling me what to do and I feel like is an instinct, so I was wondering instinct can be felt through the heart and not only the mind , am i right ?